August 25, 1949 – September 23, 2013
Sandy or more recently known as “The Queen”, was 64 at the time of her death. We gathered around her on Monday, September 23, 2013 to share in her beautiful passing. Sandy took her last breath in the arms of family, and close friends at 2:11 p.m. while her son-in-law and her two grandsons sent her off in prayer with sacred smudge smoke from the Chapel. She was in the gentle care of the Foothills Medical Centre, Palliative Unit, in Calgary, Alberta.
Sandy described her journey through lung cancer as challenging, scary, and healing. Through it she found beauty, love, deep relationships, forgiveness, and acceptance. Cancer became a healer companion for her… no battle or fight required. She broke all the odds, sharing life with us over a year longer than her original prognosis. Sandy also endured pain that would keep many people bed-ridden; her determination to play with her grandchildren in spite of the progression of cancer to her spine, had her down at the beach, laughing and joyful on our last family vacation in between hospital stays.
Sandy was born on August 25, 1949 in Calgary, AB welcomed by her parents, Eunice Beresford (Goodwin) and William Thomas Floyd, and her big brother Rick. Although she reconnected with her sister Jan later in life, she was so special to her as well.
As a young girl, Sandy was regularly wanting to play with all the “boys'” stuff… cars, and power tools still being tops on her list! She was an avid track and fielder, and was on the volleyball team in school. Being a ‘foodie’ from the start she loved lots of traditional foods and made the best Mac n’ Cheese, Turkey Soup, and Pumpkin Pie… but no Stew for her!
Sandy married her friend and companion, Kevin Young in Peterborough, ON. Their marriage ended in divorce yet yielded the light of Sandy’s life, their daughter, Deirdre.
Sandy began working at young age as a successful hairdresser, not having finished High School. However when Deirdre was a toddler, she completed the Interior Design program at Niagara College. There she met and kept a life-long friend, Margaret Graham, who became Deirdre’s “nother mother”.
Working full-time as a single-mom wasn’t easy. And yet, Sandy’s tenacity kept her on the move from Interior Design work through to Facilities Management here in Calgary and in Toronto. Her final work was in Calgary with Deloitte in Records Management. At one point she used her employ at CO-OP groceries as a paid “work-out program”. Sandy even got close to some hot rods (that’s the cars…) when she worked for her brother Tim at The Temple of Torque. Her love of Tupperware and organization lives on in our kitchen cupboards as well!
She was also a full-time Dance Mom, set designer, artist, seamstress, chauffeur, and her daughters’ biggest fan. Always the Late-Night Listener, sounding board, encourager for many as well as a “Gardening Therapy” advocate, justice seeker and sticking up for those who seemed voiceless or in need of a Thanksgiving Dinner invite…she will be missed.
Sandy’s courage had her explore some childhood wounds that offered her a way through what once felt too dark to tread. This lead her into a new awareness and new possibilities. We are better because of her willingness to share her hurt, her truth, her growth, her knowing, and her life as it was.
Sandy is survived by these beloved: her amazing daughter Deirdre Young and wonderful son-in-law, Bill Owens; her incredible grandchildren, Fynn and Kai; her precious mom Eunice; her beloved siblings, Rick (Arlene), Tim (Cindy), and Matt (Maureen); her dear sister Jan (Jerry); her nieces and nephews, Karen and her children, Ian and family, Shayne, Lisa, Stephanie, Samantha; her Aunt Kay and family, Uncle George, Uncle Ken and family, Alice Floyd and family, Carolyn Knutson and family; and our friends that became family: Marco, Angela and Femke (wow!) vanSon, Eileen and Royale Underhill, Kimberley Winsor and Jessica Palik and their families, Margaret Graham and family, Sandi Wade and family, Carol Robertson and family, Heather Miller and her Deloitte colleagues and so many cousins, extended family and friends from Vancouver Island, across the Prairies through to the East Coast.
Sandy wanted to mention the care and healing she experienced within the community of Woodbine Heights Baptist Church (Toronto) when under the direction of Rev. Barbara Bishop. This marked a significantly spiritual time in her life that she brought forward with her. She will also be missed by Deirdre’s extended family, especially by her sister Brooke (Terry).
Sandy was predeceased by her father William; and her baby brother Shayne. She also missed her Aunt Ivy (Floyd), and Dorinel and Clarence Young as they kept her close and loved her dearly until their passing.
A Memorial Celebration Service and Party in Sandy’s Honour will be held at Friends Church (900 47th Avenue S.W.) on Sunday, October 20, 2013 at 2:00 p.m. with a Reception to follow at Friends Church. Sandy was cremated at Chapel of the Bells on September 28, 2013. Her immediate family will care for her ashes as per Sandy’s wishes.
All flowers are being provided through Anne Paterson’s Flowers.
In lieu of flowers:
Additionally, Sandy desired 2 things. 1) that her grandchildren would have the opportunity to educate themselves and travel in ways she only dreamed of and 2) to assist others with cancer to heal via natural means that she believed kept her with us longer and healthier than other methods would have. Although not required, if you would like to offer a modest contribution to either of these wishes, you can send them using email to: email@example.com via PayPal. You do not need a PayPal account to use this method. Please make mention of how to direct your contribution.
We would most appreciate that you share your memories of Sandy via email: firstname.lastname@example.org or via the McInnis & Holloway obituary site: www.mcinnisandholloway.com
We thank Dr. Josephene Juell DC and Jessica Palik RMT for their generosity in Sandy’s wellness and for the deep work inspired through Rita Bozi 3in1Consultant Practitioner and Dr. Allissa Gaul ND.
Thank you to:
Team Sandy (Jill, Angela, Tanya, Elli) for Loving What Is and loving The Queen and her family unconditionally,
All family who cared for GG, and took care of business and tasks so that Deirdre could focus on her mama,
Rob Low for the dress inspiration for Sandy,
Anne Paterson’s Flowers, Elli and the Girls, for bringing beauty to Sandy’s life each week and for the continued sharing of beauty with those in palliative care who still need it,
For all of you who followed our last 2 months via email updates, visited, texted, brought sweet treats…
Thank you to all who supported us physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You have been invaluable and hold a special place in our hearts as we grieve and celebrate Sandy.
In Sandy -“The Queen’s”- words: “Hi Hon!”, “I am what I am until I’m not; right now I am fully me.”, “Kozy Shack…is spelled with a K”…”Ya think?!”, “I have a New Normal each day”.
When someone dies and the ache is great we know that the love was deep such that we get to miss her so very much.
Here’s to truly…
“Loving What Is”…
Amen, as in… Let it Be so.
In living memory of Sandy Young, a tree will be planted at Fish Creek Provincial Park by McINNIS & HOLLOWAY FUNERAL HOMES, Chapel of the Bells, 2720 CENTRE STREET NORTH, Telephone: 403-276-2296.Print This Obituary & Condolences