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RAMSAY, Iain Cullen

September 26, 1987 – September 21, 2012

Iain’s journey, and visit, with us has come to an end. Iain Cullen Ramsay died unexpectedly, but peacefully, at Mommy’s house on Friday, September 21, 2012.

Our gift arrived as he left, too early, on September 26, 1987 and he filled our lives with joy, laughter, patience, humility, compassion, courage and simplicity. One thing became crystal clear to us: having a child with special needs is indeed a very, very special thing. Many things in life brought Iain joy, and there were a few that always brought a smile to his face: a haircut from Ed, music on his iPod, particularly Raffi’s Christmas album (regardless of the time of year) and anything sung by Paul Brandt (or, as Iain said it, “Paw Band” ) whose voice Iain knew every time he heard it.

You did not move fast when you were with Iain; you had to be ready to operate at his speed. This was one of his greatest lessons for us: taking one’s time was what worked. Over the years we all learned to put the brakes on as we went through life with Iain, and we are all better for the slowing down. Iain worked hard all the time. Everything he did required much effort, which taught us to be grateful for our ease of movement and communication. Iain was, in many ways, a perfect example of Herculean effort, he tried and tried; he persevered, he did not give up. Nevertheless, he would sometimes become frustrated with us when we didn’t understand just what it was he was trying to tell us. His forehead would sink into his hand and he would mutter “Geeze!” as if to say how can you guys be so dense? and then he would add, “you me headache!”

Iain will be deeply missed by his large family: mom Deborah Cullen, dad Bruce Ramsay (Lisa) and his siblings Isabel and Fiona Cullen-Ramsay, Michelle Danyluk, Domenic Ramsay and his grandma Isabel Ramsay, as well as many aunts, uncles and cousins. He was predeceased by his grandpa Bill Ramsay, cousin Jason Martin, grandpa Martin and grandma Mary Cullen and his uncle Burke Cullen.

Funeral Services will be held at McINNIS & HOLLOWAY’S Park Memorial Chapel (5008 Elbow Drive S.W. Calgary, AB) on Friday, September 28, 2012 at 10:30 a.m. Condolences may be forwarded through In lieu of flowers we invite you to donate in Iain’s name to Fontaine Chidren’s Charity Foundation (FCCF). Iain is the patron of FCCF’s initiative – Light up the Casa – which can be found at or

In living memory of Iain Ramsay, a tree will be planted at Fish Creek Provincial Park by McINNIS & HOLLOWAY FUNERAL HOMES Park Memorial Chapel, 5008 ELBOW DRIVE S.W. Telephone: (403)243-8200

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  1. Im so sorry!! My thought s are with you all… Im sending hugs and love your way.

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  2. Vic & Kathy Manson :

    So sorry to hear of your loss. May the fond memories you and your family share help you through this difficult time. My heart goes out to you, with deepest sympathy. Vic and Kathy
    Nelson, B.C.

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  3. Bruce, Deborah, Issy and Fiona, we are so sad to hear of Iain’s passing. Bruce and Deborah a parents worse nightmare is to loose a child, I can only imagine your sorrow. Please know that our thoughts are with your entire family at this very very difficult time.

    The Hope Family

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  4. Craig Mathieson (Tick) :

    You may not remember me but I had the privilege of hanging out with Iain and Isabel at Camp Bonaventure when he was about 9-10. I have fond memories of Iain as I would give him a piggy back ride up to Glenmore pool. As I was so tired he would whisper, “I nub nu” in my ear. His love and kindness gave me such strength.
    “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”

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  5. Deb and family, I can’t imagine the pain you are feeling at this time. My heart aches for you. Iain truly was a gift that you were blessed with. I have very fond memories of the day we shared here at the beach in Kelowna. Love & Hugs, Susan

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  6. Dearest Debbie and Family
    Special children are all cherished gifts and your sweet Iain was no exception. He brought such love and joy to your lives and that will always be with you. The memories you have of your dear son will give you the strength you need to help you through your heartache. Iain’s tree will grow…slowly,surely,and at its own tempo and all the while completely unaware of it’s pure and innocent beauty…just as your Iain did.
    My thoughts are with you.
    Rhonda Werry
    Kelowna BC

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  7. Pam, Dean and Emily Britton :

    Deborah, Bruce, Isabel and Fiona; we are so sad for your loss. Our condolences to all of you and your extended family

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  8. Kay (Kathleen) and Ron Eberle :

    We send our Love and thoughts to everyone who was a part of Iain’s life. The obituary said it so well and even though we had only met Iain once, it’s so obvious that he was such a precious kiddo and you are all so blessed to have had him in your lives.

    Lots of Love from your cousin in Portland Oregon and we’re thinking of you all at this time.
    Love Kay (Kathleen) Ron, Sean & Ryan

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  9. Dear Deborah and family:

    I am sorry to hear of Iain’s passing. I always have fond memories of his time with me at the Tailsmen Center working out, especially his determination to walk on his own, as well as master the stairs. He always made me laugh with his determination. I also talk to my patients about him with fond memories. I am hoping to make it to the funeral on Fri a.m. so I will see you then.

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  10. Ed (the Barber) Marcotte :

    I was so saddened and shocked to read about Iain’s passing. What a wonderful tribute you have given him! I prefer a more personal touch, but not knowing your address limits me to this forum. I have always enjoyed the times when Iain would come in for a haircut and would always mention those times to my wife when I got home. I am honoured that I could bring a smile to his face and that I was an outing he enjoyed. He was so very lucky that he had you for parents, he knew he was loved and what more can we ask for from life? My heart goes out to you and yours and I will truly miss your and Iain’s visits to the barbershop. Please stop in to say hello sometime and know that the loss of Iain is shared and that in the short time he was here, he taught and gave insight to many.
    Love Ed

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  11. I didn’t know Iain but I wish I had. Your obituary was so inspiring that I have sent it to my three adult children so they can reflect on their own lives. I am sorry that you no longer have Iain in your lives but I am very sure he will remain in your hearts forever. Lucky you!

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  12. My name is Brian Jackson. I taught at CLMS while Iain was there. I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am to hear of his passing. Iain was a very special guy and someone you never forgot once you met him. As I read his obituary, I had to laugh because it perfectly summed up who I remember Iain to be, despite not having seen him for quite a while. Gone but not forgotten…

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  13. I never met Iain, but know his father Bruce who mentioned Iain over the years. In reading the obituary I was moved by the message of how important it is and how much we can learn from people like Iain. My heartfelt condolences to the family.

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  14. Joyce Laidlaw :

    Dear Bruce ,Deborah, Isobel, and Fiona,
    That was an amazing celebration of life. It always takes me weeks to come up with words for how I feel but all of you did an amazing job of sharing how much you will miss Iain. Our best wishes to all of you.
    Rob and Joyce Laidlaw

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  15. Arlie fawcett :

    Dearest Deb , Bruce, Isobel and Fiona;
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss and for the empty spot that is now there in your lives and your hearts. Please know I am thinking of you, and of Iain, with pleasure for the happy memories and an ache for your loss.
    With love,
    Arlie Fawcett

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  16. Ken and Pat Mitchell :

    Debbie we were sorry to hear of your loss. We are sorry not to have met Iain. Knowing what a great person you are and what a great family he had we know he must have been someone special. May your thoughts of him always keep you warm. Love Ken and Pat

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