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OBEN, Graham Monroe

May 8, 1955-Vancouver, B.C.
February 17, 2014- Calgary, AB

Graham Monroe Oben, beloved husband of Christa Lee Nicholson for almost 16 years, and devoted father of their 12 year old daughter, Shan Ling Nicholson Oben, passed away peacefully surrounded by family on Monday, February 17, 2014 at the age of 58 years, after a courageously fought, 9 year battle with thyroid cancer.

Graham was predeceased by his mother, Frances Emily Oben (nee Quigg), and his father, John Angus Oben. In addition to his wife and daughter, Graham is survived by his cherished “kid” sister, Patricia Oben (Dick Donaldson), and his dearly loved brother, Michael Oben (Dawn Moss), both of Calgary AB, as well as his sister, Donna Raines, of Leduc, AB. He is also survived by his favorite niece, Nicole Oben, and his nephews, Derek and Ryan Raines, as well as cousins, including Wayne Oben of Maple Ridge B.C..

Those who knew Graham would agree that he was larger than life and truly one of a kind. He was passionate, loyal, big-hearted and generous. He had a knack for recognizing people in personal need and supporting them, whether as a mentor or a friend. His sense of humour was renowned: he could always create, and share with a smirk, something hilarious in every situation. Graham’s expanding faith inspired hope in those around him.

Graham was born in Vancouver B.C. and settled in Calgary in 1971. Graham worked hard for his clients for over 30 years as a financial advisor/retail broker in Calgary at brokerage firms including Wood Gundy, Research Capital and, most recently, BlackMont Capital from which he retired in 2008.

Graham treasured his family. It was love at first sight for he and Christa and they were inseparable from the moment they met at Lake Louise, AB. Being Shan’s father was a true and tender joy to him and he fought heroically for the last 9 years to extend his time with her.

Graham loved sports and the outdoors. During his lifetime he enjoyed hockey, cycling, fly fishing, tennis, and golf. Most especially, he will be remembered by many, both in Canada and abroad, for his legendary skill and love of skiing. In his mid-twenties, Graham found himself in St. Anton am Arlberg, Austria where he worked as a ski instructor and guide and was the first North American ever to be accepted into the prestigious Bundessportheim St. Christoph (now known as the Ski Austria Academy). In St. Anton, he developed deep friendships which made it a cherished touchstone for him and, later, his family. Graham took great pleasure in sharing his love of skiing with Christa, Shan and others and enjoyed many happy days “rippin’ it up” there and in Fernie, B.C..

One of the most enduring legacies Graham leaves is what Shan refers to as his “unbreakable friendships”. Graham easily and deeply connected with people and had loyal “fans” of all ages and from all walks of life. Their devotion to him, including by providing companionship and assistance with his care all over North America, is a testament to the strength of those bonds. His friends sustained him throughout his life and especially in his final months and days.

Graham and his family wish to thank the many doctors who cared for him, especially Dr. Peter Neweduk , Dr. Dean Ruether, and Dr. Joe Warshawski (all of Calgary), Dr. Ferre Akbarpour (Orange County Immune Institute, California) and Dr. Robert Sasha Smiljanic (Vancouver). Special thanks are also extended to Graham’s fly fishing (and spiritual) guide, Josh Nugent, for his constant, tender care and companionship during Graham’s six week stay at the Rosedale Hospice, as well as the amazing staff there. Deepest thanks are offered for Fr. Jaroslaw “Yarek” Dziuba, SDS, who has prayed with and for and ministered to Graham, Christa and Shan over the past 5 years.

Relatives and friends are invited to Prayers and Tributes at McINNIS & HOLLOWAY’S Park Memorial Chapel (5008 Elbow Drive S.W. Calgary, AB) on Monday, February 24, 2014 commencing at 7:00 p.m.

Funeral Mass will be celebrated at St. Mary’s Cathedral (219 – 18th Avenue S.W.) on Tuesday, February 25, 2014 at 1:30 p.m. Cremation and private interment will take place at a later date. Condolences may be forwarded through www.mcinnisandholloway.com. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to the Rosedale Hospice through The Hospice Calgary Society, 1245 70th Ave. S.E. Calgary, AB T2H 2X8.

In living memory of Graham Oben, a tree will be planted at Big Hill Springs Park Cochrane by McINNIS & HOLLOWAY FUNERAL HOMES Park Memorial Chapel, 5008 ELBOW DRIVE S.W. Calgary, AB, T2S 2L5, Telephone: 403-243-8200.

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  1. Brief encounters over seven years have left a lasting impression of a very lovely human being. Your fortune in having him in your lives makes the loss so much greater. My thoughts go out to you. JG

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  2. Julie Stark (Caza) :

    Dear Christa and Shan,
    I had the privilege of meeting Graham once, during a dinner party I had attended with my sister Jo-Anne and have fond memories of the laughter shared that wonderful evening at Mike and Alice’s table. Graham’s quick wit, his optimism and his inner strength were remarkable and it was easy to see why his friendship was truly valued.

    I am truly sorry for your loss and hope that you can find solace in your wonderful memories of him.

    Sincerely,
    Julie

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  3. Julie Stark (Caza) :

    Keeping you both and Graham in my prayers.

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  4. Thoughts going out to the Oben family, especially my friend Donna Barnes on the loss of her brother. Empathies to all of the family.

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  5. Our heartfelt sympathy. Grant but the memory to us, we lose nothing by death. May the memories of Graham help you and Shan find peace.

    Love Alice, Mike, Dave, Chris, Kelly & Colton

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  6. Andrea Rudi Franziska and Paulina :

    Dear Christa & Shan,

    We were deeply saddened to hear about the death of our good friend Graham –

    You are in our thoughts.

    Graham will always be in our hearts, especially when we are out skiing

    May God bless you and Shan

    Love from St.Anton

    Andrea, Rudi, Franziska and Paulina

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  7. Dear Christa,

    I am so sorry on your loss of Graham. My sincere condolences to you and Shan and the rest of your family. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sincerely,

    Dodi

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  8. I’ve known Graham, For over 25 years. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

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  9. Suzanne Fournie :

    My sincere condolences to Patti and the Oben Family for their loss. Though I did not know Graham, it is obvious that he has touched many lives and his memory will live on in the hearts of those who have been lucky enough to have known him. May God bless you all and keep you healthy to cherish his memory.

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  10. Trevor and Sheri :

    Graham was the very first person to welcome us to the neighbourhood almost 10 years ago. In a 5 minute conversation, he made us feel wonderful about being there. Our friendship flourished from that first encounter. We are all so very fortunate to have enjoyed our time with Graham.

    Christa and Shan – your husband and father was an incredible man.

    With much love,
    Trevor, Sheri, Samantha and Callum

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  11. To a wonderful friend,

    Our family will always remember the nights at the campfire at Shuswap Lake and the many ski trips in Banff where Graham had us laughing so hard it hurt.

    To his immediate family ! We are thinking of you in this time of loss and send you our sincere condolences and love !

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  12. Cal & Shelly Jacober :

    Christa and Shan,

    Our heartfelt sympathies to you & your family . We hold you in our thoughts and prayers.

    Cal & Shelly

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  13. Garth Anderson and Pam Sugimoto :

    Christa and family,

    We were very sorry to hear of Graham’s passing. Our thoughts are with you.

    Garth and Pam

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  14. Hervé Gagliardi :

    Dear Shan and Christa,
    The entire Lycée Louis Pasteur team and I were deeply sorry to hear about Graham’s passing away. Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss. Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
    Kindest regards,
    Hervé

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  15. Carma Cornea and Family :

    Christa and Shan,

    Our deepest condolences for the loss of your dear husband and father, our thoughts are with you in this difficult time. We hope that your grief might be tempered by warm memories of a joyful life.

    Carma Cornea and Family

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  16. He wanted me at the service. Graham was a great and close friend of mine. We shared many good times together. I loved him like a brother. Just an hour ago, I had a thought that I had not texted him for a while and for some reason decided to Google his name (for the first time ever) and up popped his obituary and the notice that tonight is a memorial service. Thanks Graham for the psychic kick in the butt. I will be there tonight to honour your life and tomorrow as well. Shan and Christa, I know you will miss him but isn’t it wonderul that we had him in our lives.

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  17. Anthony and Rolande Parel :

    Dear Christa and Shan Ling,

    We were so sorry to hear of Graham’s passing. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
    You are both in our prayers.

    Sincerely,

    Anthony and Rolande Parel

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  18. Nieuwesteeg Family :

    Dear Christa and Shan

    Our deepest sympathies go out to you and the extended family. May you find joy in knowing that Graham will be watching over you as you ski down the mountains of Fernie.

    Our thoughts are with you at this most difficult time.

    The Nieuwesteeg family
    Fernie, BC

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  19. Dear Christa – My sincere condolences to you and your family on your loss of Graham. My thoughts are with you at this sad time. Bev Miles

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  20. It is with great sadness that I send out to you, Christa and Shan my sincere condolences.
    What a beautiful service, it was great to see you Christa for a moment. You are amazing!
    I had the pleasure of many great ski days with Graham. What a blast we had. When he met you Christa, I knew his life was complete, and then Shan….Oh the love and gratitude he had for Shan.
    Taken too soon. Please know that you are both in my thoughts and I promise the memories will only get stronger and Graham is always looking down with a big smile and a joke
    Hugs to you both.
    Beth xo

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  21. Nick & Karen Colabella :

    Dear Christa & Shan….
    We are so sad to hear about Graham. What a battle he fought for so many years. He was a good friend, who will be missed. He loved his family, & our thoughts & prayers go out to you all at this very difficult time.
    We are in Arizona for the winter, so could not attend his funeral mass, but we were there in spirit!! Peace for Graham!!
    Nick & Karen Colabella

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