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LAVENDER – Mary Frances (nee Clarke)

January 27, 1933 – January 10, 2010

Mary Lavender died in her home on Sunday, January 10, 2010 just as she had lived her life – with grace, dignity and determination. Her year-long battle with pancreatic cancer claimed her body, but never her spirit.

Born January 27, 1933 in Star City, Saskatchewan, Mary was proud of her farm heritage, and spoke fondly of her childhood. She left the farm as a young woman to attend nursing school at Saskatoon City Hospital, and there she found her true calling. Mary adored her nursing career and all that went with it – the warmth and sisterhood of her alumni, the miracles of medicine she witnessed everyday, but especially the opportunity to care for others. It came as no surprise to those who knew her when she was honoured as “Nurse of the Year” at the Calgary General Hospital.

After retirement at age 60, Mary was busier than ever, lending her considerable talents to Calgary Meals on Wheels, her church, and Canadian Blood Services. Mary made more than 100 donations of whole blood, worked as a clinic volunteer and championed the cause to recruit new donors. She also delighted in sharing her nursing skills with friends and family who needed her during illness or following surgery.

Perhaps Mary’s greatest gifts were those of her domestic domain. Despite being a thoroughly modern woman who worked to support herself and her children, Mary enjoyed intricate sewing, extraordinary baking, and the production of endless delicious sandwiches, all made with love.

Mary leaves behind her four devoted children: Elaine (John Ryder-Burbidge), Doug (Andrea), Ross (Rhonda), and Colleen (Colin Crawford); her grandchildren who delighted Mary every day: Stephanie, Adam, Carson and Megan; as well as her step-grandchildren, Simon and Charlotte Ryder-Burbidge. Mary’s siblings were also her dear friends: Marion Clarke, Harry Clarke (Fran), Ruby Shanley, and Eileen Hill (George). Mary’s eight nieces and nephews all visited during her illness to convey their love in person, and will also miss her. Many wonderful people counted Mary as a friend, including her large circle within the Christ Church community.

A Funeral Service will be held at Christ Church Elbow Park (3602 – 8th Street S.W.) on Friday, January 15, 2010 at 2:00 p.m. Forward condolences through www.mcinnisandholloway.com. In lieu of flowers, please make a financial gift to the Canadian Red Cross or Calgary Meals on Wheels, or give the gift of life through a donation of blood.

In living memory of Mary Lavender, a tree will be planted at Fish Creek Provincial Park by McINNIS & HOLLOWAY FUNERAL HOMES Park Memorial Chapel, 5008 ELBOW DRIVE S.W. Telephone: (403) 243-8200.

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  1. Michelle and Johan :

    Our deepest condolences are with all of you at this difficult time. Mary will be greatly missed.

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  2. Ann-Marie and Ron :

    May your memories comfort you at this difficult time. You are in our thoughts and our hearts, as Mary is in yours.

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  3. Margie and Eric :

    Our deepest sympathy Doug and Andrea
    and to all of Mary’s family . We know
    how special she was to all of you .
    Keeping you close to our hearts with love and prayers . Love Margie & Amp; Eric.

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  4. My deepest sympathy to Elaine and your entire family. Celebrate your Mom’s life and share remembrances – that way she will live on in your hearts and minds.

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  5. Sorry for your loss. I hope the love around you and your memories of Mary will bring you peace and strength at this time.

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  6. Colleen and Colin

    Thinking of you at this most difficult time.

    Colleen

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  7. Dear Colleen and Colin; my thoughts and prayers to you both during this sad time. I will always think of Mary whenever I see the lovely curtains she made for my camper.

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  8. To Colleen and Colin
    “When a parent dies, a planet disappears, and the night sky will never look the same”
    -Ann-Marie MacDonald from “The Way the Crow Flies”

    Nothing but warm thoughts going out to you and your family.
    Chriss

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  9. Knowing Mary made you want to be a better person. She had a grace and kindness that embraced you when you were in her presence. Her biggest legacy are her wonderful children & their families, her loving ways will carry on forever in them. Our thoughts & love go out to all of Mary’s family.

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  10. To Colleen and Colin
    Words cannot alone express how sorry I am to hear this news.My thoughts are with both of you.

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  11. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
    I know her spirit with be with you always bring you comfort.

    D.R.

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  12. Colleen and Colin,

    Please accept my heartfelt sympathy on the passing of your mother.
    May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead and the memories of your mom comfort you and your family in this time of sorrow.

    Joan

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  13. To Colleen and Colin,

    My deepest condolences to you at this dificult time. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort

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  14. Gilda Salmasi :

    You are in my thoughts and my heart in this difficult times.

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  15. To Collen and Colin and your entire family. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You both spoke so highly of Mary’s spirit and love of life and I hope that those memories will carry you through this difficult time.

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  16. To Colleen and Colin
    My deepest sympathies for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

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  17. Michelle Paquin :

    Dear Elaine,

    My thoughts are with you at this most difficult time.

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  18. Rita, Kerry, Garrett & Taylor Herperger :

    Ross, Rhonda, Carson and Megan…accept our heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your mom and grandma. May the wonderful memories that you have of her help you through your grief. There is no doubt her strength and spirit are mirrored in each of you, and they will carry you forward. God Bless and safe trip home.

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  19. Jon, Lucy & Owen :

    Dear Doug & Andrea,
    Our heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. Our thoughts are with you.

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  20. Dear Elaine,

    Sorry for your loss for you and your family. Take care.

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  21. Dr. E.L. (Bud) and Muriel Hurlbert :

    Our hearts reach out to all of Mary’s loved ones these January days of Mary’s Month. We share with the Clarke family so many precious memories of a one-room school house called Oriole, social centre of Leather River Valley long, long ago. May those memories provide comfort, joy, and inspiration to us now.

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  22. Pam Bovey Armstrong :

    Elaine,
    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Take Care.

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  23. Warren and Julie Lavender :

    Cousins,

    I was fortunate to have Mary as my godmother. As a kid I felt lucky and always thought that whenever we visited, she treated me just a little more special than Shelly, Brian or Colin. I’m sure it was in my head but she was always made me feel great. Rest in peace Aunt Mary.

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  24. Christina Decarie :

    Dear Elaine:

    I was so sorry to hear about your mother. I am thinking of you.

    Christina

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  25. Theresa Harrison :

    Dear Colleen, Colin and family,

    May the love of those around you and your cherished memories help you through the days ahead.

    With my sincere sympathy,

    Theresa

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  26. Elaine
    My thoughts are with you and your family. Share lots of laughs with your sister and brothers as I’m sure Mary would want you to. See you soon … Pat

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  27. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your mother Mary, but I know that it is the many happy memories of her that will remain. All the best.

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  28. Dear Elaine, my most sincere condolences to you and all of your family who have been touched by the loss of your Mom. May each of you continue to shine with her gracious love.

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  29. Dear Colleen, Colin and all of your family,

    Scott and I want to express our sincere condolences for your loss. It was such a pleasure to meet Mary, and I awlays enjoyed sharing in so many fun stories about her.

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time.

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  30. Elaine,

    I’m sorry to hear about your mother – my thoughts are with you and your family.

    Take care,

    Tom

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  31. Sincere sympathies to all Mary’s family.She was a “classy” lady,and I’m glad to have had her as a classmate and friend.-Louise Carr

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  32. Ida Templeton :

    To Colleen, Elaine, Ross and Doug – my thoughts and love go out to all of you and the family. I will never forget what a wonderful person Mary was and how much she positively influenced my life.

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  33. Spring Tompkins :

    Elaine, I’m so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you.

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  34. Alex McPherson :

    Rest eternal grant unto her, O Lord, and let light perpetual shine upon her.

    My prayers are with your family at this most difficult time.

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  35. Kevin Atchison :

    Elaine,

    Ana and I both wish that we could be there for you if only to provide a shoulder to lean on or a word of comfort at this time.I know the feeling of someone so close leaving us too soon.Just remember that they are never truly gone as long as we hold their memories in our hearts & minds.
    Sincerely,
    Kevin

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  36. Dan & Kathy Mulligan :

    Dear Doug and Lavender family:
    Mary was at the top of my list of friend’s moms.
    Kathy and I are very sorry to hear about your loss. We will be thinking about Mary and your family in the days ahead.
    All the best,
    Dan & Kathy

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  37. Shelley Dalke :

    Colleen and Colin and family,
    I am sorry to hear about Mary’s passing. I am thinking of you during this time.
    Shelley

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  38. George Villaruel :

    Colleen and Colin,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

    George

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  39. Veronica Jurado-Garcia :

    Colleen and Colin,
    My thoughts are with you both at this very difficult time. I´m sure her love will always be around you.
    May you get the comfort and peace you most need.
    With deepest sympathy.
    Sincerely,
    Veronica

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  40. Stan and Lynn Homer :

    To all the Lavender family especially Colleen;

    Our love and prayers are with you. We appreciated all Mary’s hard work, humour and friendship. Mary was a great support for Calgary Meals on Wheels. A true trooper.
    We are currently in Panama so will not be able to attend on Friday.

    Our deepest sympathy goes out to all the family.

    Stan and Lynn Homer

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  41. Dear Ross, Rhonda, Carson & Megan
    I am so sorry to have read about the passing of your mother and grandmother. My thoughts are with you during this sad time. It is always hard to loose our moms…even if we had time to prepare. May love, time & memories soften your sadness & bring you peace. We will miss her smiling face at Southwood Dental. We saw her as a very kind & sweet individual. My deepest sympathy …..
    Sincerely Rhonda Roney

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  42. Cameron Lavender :

    Dear Family, Elaine,Doug,Ross and Colleen. My thoughts are with you at this time of your loss.
    Hoping your sorrow will soon pass and fond memories remain.
    Thinking of you guys, your cousin Cam.

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  43. Alison Mihalik :

    Elaine:
    My thoughts are with you and your family at this time. Take care.

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